Like many writers I’ve met, I’m naturally shy. I come from a long line of shy people and have many shy siblings. It’s in my DNA. A semi-introvert who is uncomfortable calling attention to myself. The reason I bring this up is because the release of my debut contemporary romance, BRINGING DELANEY HOME, is 5 days away and that means promoting it. This is slightly outside of my comfort zone. And by “slightly outside” I mean like “streaking on live television” outside. So, I have resolved to embrace the “dab” a la Cam Newton.
The Urban Dictionary defines “dabbing” as: “Atlanta lingo for a level of confidence in your swag. (verb) One can be seen raising his left elbow to express it.”
If you haven’t seen it, I’ll direct you to the photos (#1 & #3) from the Charlotte Observer in their article on Cam Newton and the Carolina Panthers. It’s a photo of the whole team “dabbing” and I love it. I understand not everyone is a fan. I’ll admit, my first tendency when Cam Newton arrived on the NFL football scene with his Superman pose was to think, holy cow, what a cocky guy. But it didn’t take long for me to sit back and enjoy and respect the man, the talent and the confidence that is Cameron Newton.
Now, Cam Newton and others have said he scares people. “I’m an African-American quarterback that may scare a lot of people,” Newton said, “because they haven’t seen nothing that they can compare me to.” It is a sad fact that in our enlightened world some people still judge based on skin color. I hope those numbers are few. But, I’m going to suggest another reason some people find all the posing and side-line celebratory antics off-putting. If there are other people like me, women of a certain generation 😉 we were raised with certain rules. We were taught not to brag or boast, to be humble, and to be a good sport. Calling attention to yourself was considered rude. Nice polite girls were well-behaved and quiet. “Modesty is a virtue.” Any of this sounding familiar to you?
Modest- (from Dictionary.com)